Grieving is a normal process, one without a template or a timeline. There’s no one way that we grieve, no one way that we experience and cope with feelings of loss. Those emotions might be fleeting, recurring or constant. Loss, and the grief that ensues, is a personal reaction to an event; grief is an integral part of the healing process, and often requires the support of friends or family members.
Handling grief means first understanding where it comes from. A great many factors may influence the nature, duration and intensity of the loss and grief you feel, including personal religious or spiritual beliefs, behavioral health issues, personal disposition, disabilities, familial traditions and more. As a result, it’s important that before you take the time you need to address feelings or loss or grief, you first identify their source, and the factors in your own life that might be contributing to everything you’re experiencing.
We’ve taken the time to identify 4 ways you can address the feelings or loss or grief you’re experiencing in your own life.
1. Connect with the help you need.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make during your grieving process is making the assumption that you can handle the process entirely on your own. Isolation is your own worst enemy during this time. Instead, look to surround yourself with the help you need when you’re experiencing sustained feelings or grief or loss. Help from licensed counselors and therapists can be transformative during this stage of life.
Rather than seek to minimize your experiences or undersell what you’ve gone through, therapists will help guide you through all of the appropriate steps that grief allows, ultimately helping you return to your daily routine while embracing the positive benefits of a normative, healing grief and loss process.
Connect today with a licensed online counselor, who can help you address specific feelings of loss and/or grief. Browse through counselor profiles today, to find the right provider to help you navigate this difficult time.
2. Practice a daily routine.
Grief can often derail our sense of routine. And while we absolutely need to dedicate time during our day to the grieving process – much of grief is healthy, natural and necessary – excessive grief or misplaced grief can easily compromise productivity and ultimately self-confidence in our own identity.
That’s why maintaining a daily routine amid feelings of grief and loss is so critically important to overall health and wellness. Look to keep your daily routine as regular as possible, and don’t be afraid to schedule life’s simplest events – wake up time, meals, daily activities and bedtime – with consistency. Doing so will not only help you frame your daily tasks, it will also help you better identify the purpose for your day’s tasks, from taking a walk (mental clarity) to washing the dishes (cleanliness) to speaking with family members (appropriate consolation).
3. Surround yourself with friends and family members who understand and/or empathize with your emotions.
Taking the time to surround yourself with individuals who truly understand what you’re going through is also so important whenever you’re experiencing loss or grief. If you’ve lost a family member, neighbor or pet, individuals with shared relationships with that person or animal will help you benefit from shared experience. Seek out friends or family members who have experienced similar loss or sadness, and ask them not only for their love but for their insight, into how they best addressed their emotions during that difficult time.
Surrounding yourself with family members and friends also means that it’s easier to be yourself during this time. You won’t need to “put on a mask” around the people who love you the most. There’s no need to pretend or to undersell the experience. Friends and family members you love will help you prioritize your own grieving process, especially if they also share in your sadness or loss.
4. Give yourself permission to grieve and feel loss.
Often a forgotten permission when we experience grief and loss, letting yourself actually grieve is critical to any healing that is to take place. We need to give ourselves permission to grieve, to feel loss, to let those emotions hit close to home. We often need to give ourselves permission to cry, to fully embrace that loss and experience the emotions for what they are.
Giving yourself permission to grieve also means allowing others to see you grieving. Not only will those promote intimacy between any individuals sharing in your grief, it will also help others to give themselves the same permission.
How to best address grief and loss
At any age, for a wide variety of reasons, we experience feelings of grief and loss. And it’s critical that when we experience these emotions that we understand how to properly deal with them. Our counselors don’t impose timelines or hold you to unrealistic expectations; rather, through mindfulness and appropriate behavioral therapy we help you appropriately respond to grief. Grieving and experiencing loss always require support from friends and family but also from licensed therapists who understand what you’re experiencing and how to professionally help. Schedule your appointment with one of our certified Pyramid Online counselors today, and learn to take back a productive, fulfilling life.